Watching TV would probably be the most common hobby and past time in the world. That’s why, advertisers invest a huge sum of money to television companies regardless of the price for they are very much aware that it is the most effective tool for persuasion.
While waiting for our favorite TV shows, we somehow, have no choice but to view these commercials and their, ‘not so convincing models’ just to be able to watch the show we’ve been waiting for without missing any second. In fact, there are times that we wait for a certain advertisement rather than a TV show. But do these hugely-invested projects persuade the viewers?
In viewing these commercials, I admit some were convincing and some weren’t. One of the convincing ads for me is the xenical commercial which is a cosmetic product and is used to loose weight in almost an instant. And the unconvincing ad is the touch mobile commercial wherein, i think, they have over emphasized the ‘pang-masa’ concept.
Convincing!
Unconvincing (This is not the exact ad)
In those types of commercial, I think, the xenical ad should be filtered through the central route because we need to listen to what the model was saying and it is up to the viewer if he tries to believe or not. However, in the TM commercial, though it was unconvincing for me, the visuals were somehow unique and eye catching but it still, i was not persuaded. I think it is such a cliche to use the “bisaya” accent just to emphasize and illustrate that it is ‘pang-masa’. Therefore it passes through the peripheral route based on the technicalities.
blabbering words again.,that’s the reason why i created a blog anyway,.
so,, who the hell cares?
“I will gonna die” that’s the newly constructed and most quotable sentence of the year!
…Stop me! I’m supposed to write a story here
anyway, here it goes.,
I know this person who, of course, knows me as well. We are just acquaintances since we’ve only known each other if not for this common subject that we’re both in.
He loves to comment on things., it’s kinda uplifting at times. But as he does it daily, it’s has become irritating and “intimidating”(the most appropriate word to describe it i guess). How should i react? I must admit, It is indeed flattering if i wouldn’t consider the way he said it., but i wouldn’t close my eyes when talking to him of course!
There’s this certain non-verbal communication that he does., I dunno if he does it on purpose, but i hope he’d be aware of it.,
i’m not writing today just to backbite a professor which probably, is the reason some people write about their teachers and post it in the net.
In fact, I m here in the opposite way. I’m writing to pay tribute to a professor. Not that he/she’s dead, but i kind of miss her at times.To give you a hint about who she is, she was my teacher during the first semester(The other clue is the title). She gives us very remarkable discussions which I admit, sometimes gave me those unbearable chills. My nerves take over my brain and when it’s time for me to answer, I just blabber jokes which surprisingly makes her laugh and even remember my name the whole semester. Learning was really fun. I’m never sleepy during her class. In fact, I sweat the whole time, like I was constipated the whole period.
ooh., in case you are wondering, I don’t have a certain infatuation with this prof! I’m 100% girlash. You see, she teaches in quite a weird way, but in the totality it was amazingly fun.
I admit, I’ve almost forgotten the lessons we had in that sem, but her smiling face was tattooed on m y mind.
hooh,. finally, i have decided to write something informal in this well used blog. Well not everything written here is really formal but it would probably be nice to write something that is outside the purpose of the creation of this blogger.
it is quite an achievement for me to finish reading a pocket book. Just because, it is certainly not normal.
My main purpose in reading the book was just to ride on with the conversations with my friends. They’ve talked about this certain book that was long overdue to be returned in the library. And they talked about the contents too. It was quite interesting, i thought. The title is, “Falling Leaves” by Adeline Yen Mah. I also remember the cover of the book with jun-ling’s(Adeline’s Chinese name) photo with her brothers and sisters. I had no regrets.
The next day, I went to the library and borrowed the book. I was more interested when i read the text printed on the photo overlapping the child. It says, “A memoir of an unwanted Chinese Daughter”. In the first few pages, I have learned about a few history of her family which was attached to the history of China. One familiar topic was also mentioned, the Chinese footbinding tradition. It was my topic when i made my very first term paper during my 4th year in high-school. Every experience was very haunting. In fact, it made me think how lucky i was with this very imperfect life i have. Close to crying, i slept with her story lingering on my bothered mind. It was pretty confusing too. I had lots of hanging questions which will perhaps, be answered only when i finish reading the whole context.
3 days passed. i finished. Damn! I was satisfied! Actually, more than satisfied. Except for skipping washing the dishes, Reading yen mah’s story made me understand how life can be so unkind to you. Although she belonged to a very rich family, It was never a reason for her to live a very comfortable life the way i have imagined rich people should experience. It was clear that she learned a lot from what she has. Not the rich family, but the experiences she had when she was still a child. It was surely memorable perhaps, traumatic for her. Makes me say, she deserves everything that she has achieved and deserves more in the coming years.
“The cheapest, most effective way to connect with others is to look them in the eye.”
·Nicholas Boothman
How effective is ‘looking in the eye’ as a communication act? It is said that, sometimes, it is not important “what was said” because considering “how a message was said” needs more attention. In a situation like telling a story to a friend or even making somebody feel that you are angry or irritated, eye contact is probably the best and the easiest way to convey emotions.
Eye contact – looking directly into the eyes of another person – is such a powerful, emotionally loaded act of communication that we normally restrict it to very brief glances.
In a more specific case, eye contact would probably be the most effective tool in showing desire or likeness in a subject. In such cases, there are different types of eye contact that expresses distinct messages. It could mean frustration, anger, admiration or love.
Usually the first contact made with a “Potentially Interesting Person” is eye contact. There are a few different types of eye contact:
There is the “Across the Room” eye contact, the “In Passing” eye contact (when a PIP is passing by you) and the all-important “Conversational” eye contact. In addition to this, when the both of you were able to decrease your uncertainty levels and were able to know each other’s characteristics for a while, you may do the “prolonged eye contact”. Each is different in many respects, but similar in that they are all ways of sneaking in communication without words.
The ideal “Across the Room” eye-contact flirt only makes contact for two or three seconds, and then shyly, must turn away. Usually this will make you smile, which is again a perfect communication – friendly and pleasant.
“Prolonged eye contact“between two people indicates intense emotion, and is either an act of love or an act of hostility. It is sometimes disturbing (considering other people’s culture) that in normal social encounters, we avoid eye contacts of more than one second. Among a crowd of strangers in a public setting, eye contacts will generally last only a fraction of second, and most people will avoid making any eye contact at all.
Think about this, if a man stares at you and doesn’t look away even after you glanced at him, it makes you uncomfortable and realizes that he is more of stalking you than showing his interest in you.
Significance:
The eye perhaps is the most important sensory gland that is used for communication. It is in fact, considered as the “windows to your soul”. It is the medium for messages that we may have difficulty in expressing. eye contact, especially in the process of flirttation ( there are different types depending on the process) may answer the following questions(questions are according to level of flirtation based in the eye contact technique):
Is he paying attention to what I’m saying?
·Does this person find me attractive?
Does this person like me?
When making the different types of eye contact especially when flirting, remember that you are trying to convey a message with your eyes. People have often thought that when they end up looking away after making the first step of flirtation-a very short glance, they are no good in the “eye contact strategy”. The truth is, they were actually able to complete the first step and convey the desired message.
There are some parts in the flirtation process wherein you’ll have to like, ‘reply to his glance’ also by looking very shortly to him in a certain way that you’ll be able to show him that you are interested inhim too. In a situation such as when a man you are interested to looks or stares at you, you have to look back at him and let him catch you. In this way you were able to relay that the interest is mutual.
Having a small chat or conversation is also a medium for flirting. It shows confidence and trust to the person you are conversing with. In fact, researchers have discovered that one of the most striking differences between people who are socially confident and those who are shy, is that confident people have much more frequent eye contact with their conversational partners.
It reveals your feelings. However, it depends on what impact it creates to the person of interest. Eye contact is the most basic medium for flirtation but it is the safest way to express emotions non-verbally.
if you don’t look at someone when you are introduced, it looks as if you are shy, aloof, or have something to hide. But if you stare, that seems threatening and hostile. Most encounters are a mixture of looking at the person and then looking away – as you’ll see if you video yourself chatting to a good friend.
Keeping an eye contact when flirting with a person often gives assurance and most especially it coveys the message,”I am interested in you”. Since flirting is just a step in forming relationships, it is important that we make a good impression by using the body language basically the eye contact which is 50% in the totality of communication strategies.
Some statements proving that eye contact is an effective flirting technique:
“I have a thing about eye contact. I love it, and when I’m flirting, I do it a lot. It’s mostly subconscious. I usually don’t even realize I’ve been holding a guy’s gaze for a prolonged time until he laughs and says, ‘what?!’”
-ipodgirl-
“Eye gazing is essential to me. As an empath I’m so deeply sensitive about what people already feel … but the eye~gazing has helped me to discern more deeply and deeply. As a Dakini, with many years of practice and continued opening, I can easily assert that this can be a doorway to vast new worlds of awareness.”
-LotusShaktigodess-
“When I’m interested, I will repeatedly try to catch her eye. First, because I’m looking to see whatever might be there– to see what I can see! Second, I do it to show interest and maybe see if I can get some “play” going. Two can do a lot of talking and have tons of fun with just the eyes”
-eastwest10-
References:
I have gathered information through several websites that provide flirting tips to men and women. All of which states that eye contact is the first step in formulating relationships. The websites are:
www.links2love.com
www.medicinenet.com
www.thesite.org
www.romanceclass.com
www.sirc.org
“what social science can tell you about flirting and how to do it”, Kate Fox (Social Issues research Center)
www.personals.salon.com
Activities
Week 1
Week 2
Week 3
Week 4
Week 5
Week 6
Week 7
Week 8
Week 9
Week 10
Select a topic
Find information
State your thesis and make a tentative outline
Observe the area of study (gathering facts through immersion)
Organize notes
Write your first draft
Revision of outline and draft
Type final paper
Some parts of this article is revised to specify “flirting” which is my final topic.
Majority of the people around us are not aware that all of us uses intrapersonal communication to enrich our souls.
now, if you’d ask me what i meant with what i have just stated, meditating helps us realize things and formulate goals that we couldn’t have possibly thought of in other types of communication acts. Things that happen around us is actually attracted by us and only us. Failures in doing things that we are very eager to achieve depends on how we react on situations and relies on what we tell ourselves. It isn’t about what other people think about us, it is simply about what we think about ourselves.
Perhaps, good intrapersonal communication is the key.
Many people have stated that much of their stress in life is from a feeling of not having any control in their lives. The essential first step in gaining control is getting a clear understanding with yourself, on what you want. Then you must be able to figure out the details of that desire and the steps necessary to achieving it.
We need to do this in all areas of our lives, and have an idea, in each area, how we would like to achieve it. This puts you in the driver’s seat of your life. You can be the one in control instead of having others control you.
You will then be able to communicate to others what your wishes and desires are. This will enable you to attract to you what you need, to go where you want to head. Another video clip thatmust be viewed:
